Everybody's life has some drama, at one point or another. I guess mine has started today. And my birthday is around the corner some more. Perfect timing right? Or, maybe not!
As much as I love my aunties, (u gotta love them rite, they are family), sometimes they can just be exasperating and over the top. Take for instance Aunty B, who spends her time 'looking out' for eligible single guys and girls she can introduce each other to. She has been trying to set me up a guy, but so far it has yet to work out.
Just before I left for Melbourne, she decided to try to set me up with a 37-year-old guy, let's call him Mr P. Long story short, we have yet to meet, but he did add me on FB. He hasn't called me either nor has he messaged since the first day we communicated.
Now, it's almost a month since I returned from Melbourne and I haven't heard from him, so I have a hunch that Mr P is not interested. So I told Aunty B what I felt. She told me to hold on, cos' he is away in China for work so "just wait and see". So I waited.
Today, she sends me a forward of a message she sent to him. OVER the top message. It went something like this:
"Anyway P, if u are looking for a glamourous and attractive person, she is not the one but if u want someone who is soft spoken, pleasant, good natured and who comes from a good family,Anu is the one.
I am not praising her or the family but we come from a middle class family and I felt both of u can fit into our families. So I leave it to u but only hope everything will be ok."
How is that not embarrassing? I know she means well, but is this the right way to do it?
And yes, I may not be glamourous, but I do believe I am attractive, in my own way, Aunty B. As 'perasan' as it sounds, guys do drool over me, occasionally. But I can't tell u that, can I?
And what does Mr P reply? (yes, she forwarded me his reply too).
"Dear Aunty B I will surely meet her just that I don't feel well after the China trip. Hope it gets better soon for me to give a decision."
And that ladies and gentlemen, is the reality of a modern day arranged marriage proposal.
Aunty introduces Boy and Girl. They meet, on a so-called date at a chosen place. Aunty asks Girl how she feels then says, let's wait and see what he says. And so the waiting game begins. Days turn into weeks and still no word is heard. And then one fine day, Girl finds out Boy is not interested, one month or two later.
Of course that doesn't happen to each and every girl. I suppose it would help if the Girl is thin, fair and beautiful because at the end of the day, that is what counts. Not so much personality or character. And unfortunately, not all of us are blessed with "the look" but we do have a lot more to give but alas, those qualities are just not enough.
Can u blame me for not wanting to be hooked up this way? But I know she's only looking out for me, so how can I get mad? But I think it's time to tell my well meaning aunties that I've had enough of these introductions.
I think I shall continue to be single. It's working out pretty well so far, plus minus a few aches and pains. But that's normal - be it single, married, divorced. So it is fine then. Single it is.